Simply telling me you'd like to be dominated isn't as helpful as you may think.
If you're new to BDSM, you might not know how to talk about the kinks and fetishes you're drawn to. There's nothing wrong with that! We all have to start somewhere, and finding the right words can be tricky, especially if you feel a little bashful about your interests to begin with.
Keep in mind, however, that BDSM and kink are incredibly nuanced and individualized, and small details can often make a huge difference. Not every submissive with an interest in bondage is comfortable with blindfolds, much like not every foot fetishist enjoys dirty feet. For this reason, simply telling me you'd like to be dominated isn't as helpful as you may think: after all, that was implied from the start when you sought out the services of a professional Dominatrix!
The best way to truly determine your interests is through first-hand experience. While I'm perfectly capable of having my way with you no matter your communication skills, I want you to leave my dungeon filled with the same love and respect for BDSM that I have. This is more likely to happen if you're able to communicate effectively.
A note about my own enjoyment:
Sometimes, submissives are hesitant to talk about their interests because they want me to enjoy myself rather than cater to them. If you share that concern, consider the following:
For a more vanilla comparison, say you're having a private dinner prepared by a world-renowned chef. With an entire kitchen at their disposal, they'll find it incredibly helpful to know you're partial to stone fruit, don't care for truffle oil, and have never tried monkfish. Knowing these details doesn't mean you're telling the chef what to do, but it gives the chef important context should they wish to use it.
My best advice for effective communication is to be as blunt as possible during our negotiations at the dungeon prior to play (until then, please keep your emails polite and G-rated!). As a Dominatrix, I'm a professional secret keeper: I promise I'm not judging you for your interests or the way you communicate them to me.
If you still need help finding the right words for your interests, ask yourself the following questions:
What does submission look like to you? When you fantasize about being dominated, is it by a strict woman in leather barking orders while you cower at her feet? Do your thoughts turn to being humiliated by the beautiful, bratty girl next door? Are you fascinated with the idea of being feminized and trained to be the perfect maid?
Do your kinky fantasies share common themes? Extended reflection may reveal you're especially fond of a body part like feet or armpits, an item of clothing like high heels or gloves, a feeling like helplessness or fear, or a word like pig or slut.
What feelings do you hope to experience? A strong desire to be rendered helpless tells me you may enjoy heavy bondage and sensory deprivation, while an ache to feel encouraged and nurtured tells me you may prefer praise to humiliation.
What are your hard limits? Personally, I find knowing what you're not interested in to be just as informative as knowing what piques your interests. If you know for a fact you're not interested in feminization, then I know not to stick you in lipstick and panties— in fact, we should avoid my femme room all together.
Is BDSM inherently sexual for you? While BDSM is inherently sexual for plenty of people, plenty of others don't find BDSM sexual at all. Instead, they're drawn to kink for the sensations, the power exchange, or just because submission feels natural to them.
These questions are a great place to start, but don't fret if they don't help you. I'm still happy to play with you, so don't let this stop you from experiencing kink for the first time. Again, the best way to truly determine your interests is through first-hand experience, and you can't get there if you don't take that first step.